Well, no. Actually she looks pretty great!
But we’re all supposed to find her ludicrous and repulsive. Tagline for the light yogurt ad: “Forget about it. Men’s preference will never change. Fit Light Yogurt.” Via The F-Word. Just another one of those messages that helps to tell women that their bodies are not OK.
So I expect I’d deeply resent having to be in such circumstances, but I’d love to look like her, if I were.
following links from the f-word, one finds three examples of the yogurt company’s add. The others are much less admirable. It might be worth thinking why.
Opps. Of course, it should be “company’s ad”.
I dont think thats attractive at all, nor does it make me wanna eat yogurt
And here I thought it was going to be an enlightened ad recognizing her beauty. Silly me. I don’t eat this brand of yogurt and now I never will. And she looks pretty damned fit to me…
This woman is hot!!!
What really gets me is that not only are they telling women to be skinny, they’re telling them to do it for a MAN. And the threat they pose is that his taste won’t change, meaning if you don’t stay thin, he will find someone else who is. Anybody with me?
Surely they are joking.
She looks just fine - not only that, but to address the point of the add directly, outside of the modern model era, she might well have been considered a standard beautiful look.
Well that lady is beautiful, curvy….how a female should look.
I guess all of us women better pick up the needle and get on our heroin addiction. It’s what men like…right?
Crack whore skinny, it’s the new in!
I love society and where media tries to take us…give me a break.
I agree with Lindsay on crack-ho skinny trend.
It never ceases to amaze me, how the disease of cultural depravity rears it’s first ugly symptoms via the Blackstone media blitz.
parapraxis, you seem to have added a comma, but otherwise you comments are the same. I’ll take the first one out.
That woman is beautiful, it’s incredibly sad that she was exploited in this way… And geez, it’s unconscionable that we should have to continually be bombarded with all those monstrously cracked and mega-wrinkled up faces online — showing women’s faces looking so unnaturally horrible. They are purposely making them look monstrous.
The people responsible for continally stirring fear in women via those ads, those people are loathesome. That’s so detrimental to women — just like this ad. I wish women wouldn’t buy their damn products. But being forced to look at those ads online (many people have to be online for work), well, it should be illegal. If there’s a hell…
But really, men who come up with these ads live in a miserable, plastic, shallow world — wearing masks of self-importance to hide their own fear of not measuring up, fear of not having sufficient bulge in their britches, heh And they probably don’t :)
Women are being manipulated by this crap…and these “men who won’t change” are potently not worth a sh*t. So why do we care at all what they think? And even if every man was of the “no-change” variety, sh*t will still never trump being single and happy :) Why in hell would we want a jerk who would expect us to be perfect? Truly good men of substance and intelligence want women of substance and intelligence :) There are multitudes of such men who would find this woman extremely attractive.
And isn’t it bizarre that the tagline is, basically, a lie? Men’s preferences change regularly, and as proof, I’d offer the observation that Mae West was about as zoftig as the woman in this ad. And Mae was considered a total hotsy-totsy.
Another great example of women as sexual objects for the use and and pleasure of men.
We may have fought our way out of the kitchen and into the work place and empowered ourselves with the right to vote and birth control but now it is up to us to fight the mental and social stigma directed towards women as sex objects. I for one, will not tolerate this, and hereby boycott this brand and all affiliates.
This makes me sick.
Wow, I thought she was gorgeous when I saw this… and she would be considered so in many cultures, and even ours back in the day. That is really sad. It looks like an ad celebrating the beauty of the feminine form, but nope. Just plain pathetic. Who comes up with this crap?
Amazing when a pretty female body is unrecognized as such, isn’t it? I believe I’ll just go get some whole milk yoghurt with cream on the top. Maybe I’ll eat it; maybe I’ll bathe in it. I certainly won’t use it as proof that I am physically unacceptable as I am.
Oh shut up, that ad does not represent the views of every man! i for one think she is good looking, do all women presume that all men think “a girl must have a thin waist and large boobs”, its bollocks and not true.
As a guy…any body type (within reason) can be attractive to me. I don’t think the model looks bad at all. I don’t like the message that is tagged on with it. However, if the model were skinny and had something like “Yup..men want some meat” I would find that equally as offensive. Some women are bigger, while some women are naturally thin. It depends on your genes, where you live, and your eating habits.
A woman can be curvy and STILL not be feminine. Likewise a woman can be skinny, but be very feminine. It’s about the attitude for me.
Good Christ. This woman is supposed to be undesirable? I wish more women looked like her. Screw the yogurt; If you already look like her then mission accomplished.
My mouth is starting to water and not from the yogurt.
Hah! with a MAN in the white house???
Don’t worry girls, if you don’t like yogurt, there’s alway fetishists.
The woman is attractive. And, frankly, the men I know are very particular about what they find in a woman, but “skinny” is not always first on the list. Although a very subjective topic, hot is usually first. And, unless the man had a very bad experience with a fat woman, “not fat” is used in place of “skinny.” I think women just automatically think that if a woman is skinny then she is attractive. Personally, there are many “not skinny” women I find attractive.
My fiance is always at odds with her size/weight. Most of her friends and the female companions of my male friends are also at odds with their size/weight. I have never heard a single comment beginning, “My man thinks I am…” It ALWAYS begins, “I think I am…”
Yogurt… sucks. Eat real dairy products: milk and cheese. By the way, chicken is not a meat. Beef and pork is real meat, chicken is meat for metrosexuals and women.
Kudos on writing about it, though.
She is hot! What do people want, a skeleton? That’s not really fat anyway. That is beautiful art! Back in the day within Europe, decently heavy-sized women were sought after for it meant wealth, health, & fertility. A Gaian body is beautiful in my eyes.
To Indira: I think she wasn’t forced to do this photo. As a matter of fact, I think she felt flattered to be considered a model. So much stigma is placed on heavy-sized women in the West. Poor heavier women go through a lot to be accepted by men who behold thinness as beauty only. I respect her as a model and I am a man who is adamantly against male chauvinism.
This picture is an example of a REAL woman. She is what a woman SHOULD look like. Unfortunately, there are too few REAL MEN who “get it.” So many men have bought into the image of the freakishly bodiless, shapeless examples of underfed wraiths that some miscreant fools try to tell us are “the ideal woman.” Yeah; “ideal” if I’m attracted to broom handles.
I totally agree! I mean what is the point in being thin anyway apart from health? Even then it isn’t always healthy to be thin! I hope that the people whomade this ad are really stupidotherwise they are just mean! :p
When I saw this picture, I thought OMG!!! how embarrassing, it looks like someone took a naked pic of me. I am very curvy, and I thought wait, she’s really pretty. I felt pretty good about myself and then I saw the tag line. I was mortified. I suddenly went from happy to self conscious, as if I was the naked one. I thought that the picture would be on some idiots blog! Then I was reading and your page turned out to be very empowering. I think that it’s a very nice picture, and I wish there were more out there like it. Notice she’s not obese. She is not disgusting, and she has a very real sexual gravitation.
Miss Terious– How nice to hear that our site made that difference for you!
I believe that she’s statistically “overweight,” but she also has a good waist-to-hip ratio, which is what really matters.
Honestly, I think she looks great — and are you sure that was truly the message of the ad, or was it just very poorly worded?
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. In my opinion, she’s on the plushier side (I wouldn’t call her ideal, but I wouldn’t call her obese). Some people have a taste for such women. The trouble is that people have adopted a culturally relative standard for “beauty” universally that is very narrow (what I call famine beauty), which again speaks volumes about cultural relativism. From the medical perspective, she may be heading into overweight (observe the arms; her BMI is probably around 27 to 28). In my opinion, she isn’t hideous, but she’s also not my bag.
rainbowgrl: Apart from health? Isn’t that the whole point? Don’t you think a healthy person is more attractive than a unhealthy person? More importantly, if thin meant healthy, then it would be something to strive for, would it not? Of course, thin is not necessarily healthy, depending on your definition. There is also body type to consider, which makes “healthy” specific to the individual.
Anyway, people clearly need to learn to ignore crap like that. If one were to take personally all things that could aggravate an insecurity, then one would have a head the size of Alaska. If one truly believes that conforming to a cultural ideal is meaningless, then this ad wouldn’t cause this much distress. Otherwise, what you’re doing is becoming codependent by surrendering, in your mind, some of your self-control, some of your boundaries, your self, to something external of oneself (which is really an illusion). You are attempting to do away with your full responsibility for yourself by imposing a limit on your freedom.
I was stunned when I read the tagline for the ad. I actually think this woman is incredibly HOT!!! and was stunned that anyone would try to present her as ugly - OMG…
What really stuns me about today’s ideal of beauty is it is so warped. I was a fashion model in my twenties and the ‘ideal’ size for women then was size 12. The so-called ‘ideal’ size for women these days is size 6-8 even though this younger generation of women is taller than and consequently larger than my generation. How can that be??? Why should my gorgeous daughters and their friends be expected to be half the size of women a generation older and considerably smaller? The answer I’ve found is disempowerment. I’ve noticed that as women have gained power in society the ‘ideal’ size for women has become smaller and smaller - trying to put us ‘back in our place’ (at the bottom of the heap) anyone. Why should any woman buy into such crap…
These incredibly small ideals are not healthy. If you diet or do not consume sufficient calories to maintain your body your brain starts to become muddled and your body starts to cannibalise its own organs. It’s called Brown’s Disease and the damage you cause is never repaired. So, as an older and more experienced woman in this culture, my advice to younger women would be: be strong, be capable, and above all be all the WOMAN you were meant to be. No matter what your body shape or size - BE YOURSELF!!!
- and just to let you know. My last three lovers were all in their 20s and gorgeous. I fall over men all the time throwing themselves at my feet and my body is nowhere near are gorgeous as the beautiful young woman in the photo. I love yoghurt and I love life. Just be yourself, laugh and don’t take yourself too seriously. Life (and lovers) will come to you.
“Just be yourself, laugh and don’t take yourself too seriously. Life (and lovers) will come to you.”
Excellent advice, Jessie, and I would add to that, LOVE YOURSELF. Not an easy task in a world that continually tells us how inadequate we are (so as to sell us stuff)… But self-love is an integral aspect of what you’re advising, a must for a happy life…
And note, if we allow guys to treat us like crap, that self-love thing isn’t happening. And when we have it, we readily recognize that if a guy doesn’t love us with small boobs, he also won’t TRULY love us after a boob job, nose job, etc. etc. He might be more physically attracted to us, but that’s not the same thing. If we’ve drawn a person to us who puts multiple conditions on their finding us valuable, acceptable, “loveable,” that’s a strong indicator that we put the same conditions on ourselves.
Self-love requires no conditions — ya’ gotta love you just the way you are — FIRST. From THAT POINT, any changes you wish to make to your appearance or life will naturally begin to occur, but they will still be secondary to your own unconditional self-love. The beauty actually grows from the self-love, it will grow both inside and out, simply from that genuine, unconditional self-love. But THAT must come first, if one wishes to find true happiness — with a partner or life in general. See? :)
Here’s a good relationship test question. Look at your partner, boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife…and ask yourself, “Would he/she still love me, still be with me, if I was in a horrible accident…?” I imagine that’s a question many would not be willing to contemplate… But those who would, if the answer is no, why are you still with them?? The line of a song comes to me, “How deep is your love?” If it ain’t very deep (only “skin deep”?), we need to go back to Job One: Self-Love
Master the self-love and the rest begins to fall into place, and we begin to draw partners that are worthy of the precious FINITE hours of our lives…
Dove
this is ridiculous..im a bit chunkier than the girl in this pic and i get so many guys looking at me and trying to pick me up while im working out at the gym,at the mall or just walking my dog for gods sake…jeez ppl,get real…srsly,she is gorgeous..and any “man” who doesnt think so,isnt a man at all-the ‘desire for thin waifs’ by younger men, comes from a fear of real women or a bad relationaship with their mother as a child..i personally have no time for nonsense like this,but i just had to comment on this shit..dairy isnt even good for anybody anyways,it causes obesity in the first place as all animal products do-as well as impotence,hairloss,heart disease,cancer and much more awful sicknesses and terminal illnesses-www.goveg.com-
sure, she’s hot… the ad would make way more sense if she were way, way more fat.
at the same time, there is quite a range between “fat” and “skinny.” Everyone SHOULD aim at “fit.”
fit is healthy, in shape, and approaching your best potential as a human. rabidly defending your right to be fat doesn’t help anyone. most of the comments here are so defensive it’s pathetic.
bottom line: this chick is hot. but that doesn’t mean being fat is ok. get some freaking pride in yourself, already.
I thought this woman was incredibly attractive, it’s disgusting that the media try and force these ideas of what’s acceptable onto us.
That said, there are so many women
“Yea the real earth goddess” said that men want these really skinny women because they can’t handle “real women”". There are many women who are very thing naturally, and don’t want to look like that, and when women like you tell them that they’re anorexic or somehow “not real”, and make slogans like “real women have curves” all your doing is replacing one ideal for beauty (being very thin) with another ideal for beauty (being curvy), and forcing all women to want to look like that instead. That is NOT progress, and it’s definitely not feminism.
And i wish feminists would stop acting like the problem is just men, rather than society, as if all men are responsible for all the wrongdoings, and women aren’t at all. (when, in my experience, it’s the women who keep these ideals going more than the men).
Dovelove for example said “the “men” who write these ads”. Are there no women making advertisements? Why do you assume it’s a man? (i was glad at the end though that you acknowledged the many men who aren’t so bad).
But you also made a joke about how the men who write these ads don’t measure up in the trouser department. As if that made them less of a man…..Why is it perfectly acceptable for a woman to judge a man based on his “size” but if a man judges a women based on her size, it’s a huge deal.
Yes, I’m a feminist, but I also believe men deserve all the same fair treatment and not being treated like a sex object that women do. And The unfortunate truth is that nobody seems to have a problem with man bashing. And that just disgusts me.
dhanratty090@gmail.com if anyone wants to e-mail me a reply at all.
Good points, DH, but I’m pretty sure not all feminists think it is all the men’s fault. We need to have a much more accurate picture of the source of the influences on us in such complex areas.
Darren, what you said was probably the best comment I’ve ever read about this kind of things. I’ve read a lot of comments, bashing men, saying that we are guilty of all women’s problems… and that really isn’t true.
Let’s say then, using Dovelove’s criteria, that all feminist (and women who say things like “trouser department”) are lesbian, fat, ugly that probably couldn’t get a normal man, and decided to buy 2523 cats and watch movies all day, moving towards an ideal, that’s only resentment. Not nice, huh?
I think we shouldn’t tolerate any kind of bashing, towards anyone or any group. Also saying that real women shouldn’t be thin, or that men cannot put up with real women… I find that lame. Every women is a real woman, in the way she is… we should respect that.
Honestly, I think people are misunderstanding the copy. In my opinion, I believe the ad is trying to strengthen women. “Forget about it. Men’s preference will never change.” I believe they are saying, “Who cares what men think. No matter what you do, they’re never going to change, so stop killing yourself to be anybody but yourself. So FORGET ABOUT IT.”
As for being “fit yogurt”, it seems it is aiming to help you maintain your body without adding any extra calories or such. A lot of things in society today are packed with things that are bad for your health and the yogurt is trying to be one less item to do that.
I think some people just misunderstood this ad and when it’s distributed as “This is ambushing women,” everyone follows suit without actually taking the time to really analyze it.
I only say all this because I work in advertising and the very last thing you want to do in this business, or any business for that matter, is infuriate your consumer base. There is no way they’d even aim to do that. Yogurt isn’t exactly something you make ads for “shock” value. No sense in that, that’s not what the user group would connect with. It is possible that this ad could have been differently as to where a misunderstanding would not occur, however, I do not believe it’s aim was to do what is being said above.
That’s my take.
I agree with Darren on every point. Its hypocritical to complain about this ad and then criticise and insult slender women and mens genital size.
And its a good point that this ad may have been designed by females. We don’t know.
I do think she is a healthy size 12 though with a BMI in the recommended range. She’s not carrying any excess weight, which affects the intentions of the ad. They are showing a physically healthy attractive female in optimum health, though the wording is terrible. Its a bad advert because its impossible to understand what they are trying to say. Was it designed by men and women who are misguided into thinking that a normal weight is big, and such a sized person needs to diet? Or are they trying to show a healthy BMI (24ish?) woman to suggest their product can be part of a healthy diet and not make you underweight? I don’t know.
Men and women are BOTH sex objects, who are valued for (on average) opposite evolutionary functions: men for power/status and women for beauty/nurturing.
Feminists only seem to value power/status (in themselves as well as the men they wish to attract) while viewing beauty/nurturing as inferior and unneccessary. They don’t wish to fulfill the male need for femininity, yet they still expect their female need for masculinity to be fulfilled by men.
Hi Shaun– that reading’s really interesting, and I must say it hadn’t occurred to me at all. I think it is possible reading of *this* ad. But, as it turns out, this ad was part of a series, to which you can get links here: http://www.thefword.org.uk/blog/2007/06/whoever_knew_yo. I think those make it clear that we really are supposed to think this woman is fat.
Well, I’m shocked, jender. There is really no denying then that this is an absolutely appalling advert.
It would be really interesting to know if fit yoghurt sales went up in Brazil after the ads were shown.
Being fit is what matters. Some people are healthy when they’re bigger and others are healthy when they’re smaller. “Attractive” means having the power to attract and I believe that has a lot more to do with your personality than your appearance. Of course appearance is importnant too but being sexy is not about size it’s about perception. I think this woman is beautiful but I have been attracted to woman both bigger and smaller than her in the past. She has sex appeal and she would still have it if she gained or lost weight.
It seems as if she is a possible size 12 or 14 to me. In the UK, size 14 and 16 are average sizes. The problem with the whole thing is that women are made to feel self conscious and critical about their own and other women’s bodies. Feminists don’t blame men, as some commenters here seem to think, but they blame the ads, the fashion industry, culture and so on for promoting a kind of ‘ideal’ that we are all supposed to try and attain.
This also goes the other way - women that are naturally skinny are made to feel bad because of the whole ’size zero’ thing. We should stop commenting on women’s (and men’s) bodies, full stop. There should be a respect of difference and variety. Nobody is the same. Bodies are our only true unbought possession, they are us. So I find it incredibly sad and upsetting that our society is based on criticising and passing judgement on each others bodies.
Western society seems to value uniformity - this can be seen in standard clothing sizes which just make women feel worse about themselves, for example if you are a size 16, 18 or 20, you feel reluctant to tell someone because those sizes are ’stigmatised’.
Being a fat woman, or a fat man, is stigmatised, because of the so called ‘obesity epidemic’. There are no concrete studies saying that a large woman is any less healthy than a thin woman: it depends on lifestyle, nutrition, genetics, etc.
And we don’t have a right to dictate to people *how* they should live their lives. If they want to reach for that yummy chocolate bar, that is their choice; similarly, if they want to eat a yogurt, that is also their choice.
There seems to be a ridiculous idea that all fat people live on a lifestyle of junk food, do no exercise, etc etc, when thin people are also huge consumers of junk food and may do no exercise (some thin people I know are very unfit). Everyone is different. I think Mikal is right. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and both thin, curvy, straight up and down and fat people are beautiful.
It seems as if she is a possible size 12 or 14 to me. In the UK, size 14 and 16 are average sizes. The problem with the whole thing is that women are made to feel self conscious and critical about their own and other women’s bodies. Feminists don’t blame men, as some commenters here seem to think, but they blame the ads, the fashion industry, culture and so on for promoting a kind of ‘ideal’ that we are all supposed to try and attain.
This also goes the other way - women that are naturally skinny are made to feel bad because of the whole ’size zero’ thing. We should stop commenting on women’s (and men’s) bodies, full stop. There should be a respect of difference and variety. Nobody is the same. Bodies are our only true unbought possession, they are us. So I find it incredibly sad and upsetting that our society is based on criticising and passing judgement on each others bodies.
Western society seems to value uniformity - this can be seen in standard clothing sizes which just make women feel worse about themselves, for example if you are a size 16, 18 or 20, you feel reluctant to tell someone because those sizes are ’stigmatised’.
Being a fat woman, or a fat man, is stigmatised, because of the so called ‘obesity epidemic’. There are no concrete studies saying that a large woman is any less healthy than a thin woman: it depends on lifestyle, nutrition, genetics, etc.
And we don’t have a right to dictate to people *how* they should live their lives. If they want to reach for that yummy chocolate bar, that is their choice; similarly, if they want to eat a yogurt, that is also their choice.
There seems to be a ridiculous idea that all fat people live on a lifestyle of junk food, do no exercise, etc etc, when thin people are also huge consumers of junk food and may do no exercise (some thin people I know are very unfit). Everyone is different. I think Mikal is right. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and both thin, curvy, straight up and down and fat people are beautiful.
wow, i would totally marry this chick if she lost about 5 stones (then again, she might just get fat again and i’d have to divorce her)
This advertisement is blatantly sexist even abusive toward women.
It uses a model a proportionately attractive model(proportionately attractive: meaning hip-waist ratio [which applies to all sizes], narrow shoulders, shapely, and symmetrical). Not only is this model proportionately attractive, but she also has smooth, beautiful, perfect skin, which is free from blemishes, moles, scars, lumps, bumps, as well as apparantly even hair folicles and pores. The model has a beautiful, healthy-head of hair, an attractive face, and a gorgeous smile, which exudes warmth and confidence. This model is flawlessly beautiful. She glows and has been made to look more physically perfect than most woman (outside of an edited photograph) of all different shapes and sizes. She is a painting, evoking images of botticeli’s birth of venus.
Telling women that this woman is physically unnattractive sends a terribly, negative, toxic message to all women regardless of their size. It sends a message that all women are unattractive, that they will never live up to what a man (or the other half of the population) expects them to be. In essence, the deep, underlying, psychological message is “Forget about it, a woman can never be perfect enough to be a man.”
PS. Haha Andrew Cross, I am assuming you are being facetious?
Thanks, Joe. I was thinking of removing Cross’s comment; I hope, though, it is just meant to be funny and not destructive.
This woman reminds me of the beautiful,lucious nudes painted centuries ago by the great artists.Fleshy,sensual,lush,feminine,round-BEAUTIFUL!Its a damn shame that we live in a culture that degrades women,teaches them to hate their bodies.I can tell you right now,my husband would give this woman a 10 rating.He cant stand skinny women,and loves Rubenesque women.Shame on this company for being so cruel and ignorant!
What is wrong with you.
1.She is not ugly at all.
2.She is not even that fat.
3. I am so glad that they break that stupid stereotype that “only skinny women are attractive”. Girls ruin their life training to meet that stupid stereotype.
4. She must have a beautiful ***
John, if you looked at the post carefully, you’ll see we reject the ideathat she is ugly. The title is deeply ironic.
It’s kinda funny how I ended up here. I was doing a Google search on ugly women and under the images tab, I see this beautiful woman here so I click to get a closer image. I didn’t understand at first what the advertisement was trying to say, because in my eyes, she’s effing hot! I’d love to look like her! After reading the Tagline several times, I realized that they were saying that she looked bad, which kinda startled me, and I then read through the comment left (many I agreed with, by the way). I felt compelled to set aside what I was doing and I had to write something about this. I totally agree with the obvious problem with society and how it affects us, women in particular.
I’ve never been a small person, I always had a bit of weight on me. I was always shy because I didn’t look like everyone else, and I was made fun of a bit because I was bigger than everyone else. When I look back in photos, I realize that I wasn’t actually that big at all. When I hit puberty, I shot up in height until I’m the height I currently am (6′2”) and I really felt miserable and depressed. First off, I was “fat” and second off, I was a “giant”, which also helped none. I went many years believing that I wasn’t beautiful until I met a guy who found me very attractive and is with me to this day. I also found really good friends who have helped me through some really tough times. Now, I can truly say that I’m in love with myself, not because someone found me attractive, but I finally saw through the veil that had shrouded me for so long and I found myself attractive.
That woman in the advertisement is gorgeous and it is in fact sickening that:
1. Someone took the time to photograph her, knowing what the final product was going to be.
2. Another person designed the advertisement, perpetuating the belief that a thicker woman is not desirable.
And 3. The company itself displayed the advertisement with pride.
Many eyes have seen and looked over this before it has ever touched the public view, and they all found it okay to display this.
I wonder if the woman was digitally “upsized” or whether she had to surrender her own self-esteem in order to be on this ad. Looking at the two accompanying ads, it seems as though her body was digitally manipulated to look bigger.
Nonetheless, my above musings don’t matter in the end, because it still sends an awful message about what women “should” be. It says that women should leave behind a healthy perception of themselves in favor of a dangerous obsession of making skeletons look fat with their “perfect” body.
What women, and men for that matter, should be striving for is healthiness. I see myself in a way that I am beautiful no matter what shape I am, but that doesn’t mean that I shouldn’t care at all about my body. Indeed, I do care about my body, and act accordingly, but it seems as though I am just naturally destined to be on the heavier side. Do I look down upon myself for that? I’m doing as I should be, so no, I feel as though I am in a good spot right now, and I shouldn’t put myself down because my body is naturally different from the skinnier girls.
She looks ok to me. I do prefer slim girls but that is a personal preference. My bother prefers slightly heavier women. That again is a personal preference. The majority of men prefer slim but it is far from universal. I also wonder why women get so angry at the notion that they beautify themselves for men. I’m not suggesting this a womans sole, or even main motivation but to suggest it is not part of the equation seems naive to me. Very few men actually find skinny attractive and I am continually confused as to why the image is so sought by women. I think women often make the mistake of assuming that men are somehow responsible for every ‘Image’ promoted in the media. Many women, Victoria Beckam, Courtney Cox, Teri Hatcher etc. etc. etc. were all quite attractive until they ruined their bodies with the hyper thin thing. Healthy, a few extra pounds will always be far more attractive than super-thin. Men are pressurised the same way women are. In our case it is our behaviour and attitudes that are constantly scrutinised instead of our appearence.
If you doubt the truth of that consider this.
A shy, meek woman can be consider attractive and feminine. A outspoken, confident women can be considered attractive and fiery/spirited.
A self-concious, introverted woman can be considered beautiful and thougtful.
A man in only allowed to be confident and tough (at least in the emotional sense)
What do think of shy, emotional men…..be honest.
Also, women are what they are and are fighting for the right to be what they are without judgement or discrimination.
Men are not afforded that privilage either. Men constantly supress their natures to fit into a PC world.
You are correct to raise the objections that you do, it just sounds like you think it is only women who have to deal with this.