I remember many years ago a woman philosopher friend phoned me to say she felt so ashamed. She had had someone out to her house to discuss repairs and he was putting her under some perssure to sign up. She couldn’t get rid of him, she said. So eventually she just said, “I’m sorry but I must discuss it with my husband before I can agree to anything.” She wasn’t married.
Now, I don’t think that strategy had ever occurred to me before then, and I have to say that my spouse is not keen on coming on as the decider and/or in other contexts the heavy. But recently I have been trying to negotiate my way through a very complex hierarchical buracracy, when the behavior can unhelpful to the point of being bizarre. And incomprehensible. E.g., I finally got this very major giant of an organization to phone. And in fact they phoned three times. Each time I picked up the phone and said “Hello”. There was a three second pause (timed by my phones) and then a click as the call was ended.
Of course, having called, they felt they had discharged their obligation to contact me. So enter the spouse, who does get short-tempered. Cleverly, they said they could not discuss the situation with him, because I had not given them permission to do so. However, he was undeterred.
The thing is, it works. Problem solved. This has happened twice in the last two weeks.
Does one get corrupted by brining on one’s spouse, whether fake or real? I’m afraid so. But, on the other hand, I had spent 3 days and 10 phone calls trying to do it on my own, and gotten only these ghostly phone calls..
Would you ever do this?