11 thoughts on “I don’t even know what to say

  1. Its not enough to make the poor kid wear a scratchy mesh tutu next to her skin, so they have to add an itchy tight restricting band around her little head with tickly annoying bangs/curls? How hideously uncomfortable is that? (aside from being just plain hideous)

  2. Wow. Do you think they make them for dogs? In case your female poodle keeps getting called ‘good boy’ out in the park? We have the opposite problem. Everyone thinks my male collie is a girl. Maybe there’s a male alternative for butching up your baby/dog?

  3. But j, it prepares her for a lifetime of uncomfortable primping. Really, it’s very helpful I’m sure.

  4. if you read the web site, it goes on about how comfortable the headband is. so yes, j, what’s up with the itchy tutu? but what i don’t understand is, why the hair? wouldn’t the flowery headband alert us to the girliness of the baby? -and don’t boy babies have hair? my boy babies do. maybe they’re genetically female or something…

  5. (monkey, if the high street is anything to go by, little girls wear flowers and little boys wear pirate-themed things: black & red stripes, skull & crossbones, etc. put an eye patch on the dog?)

  6. At age three my brother was entirely happy to ride his tricycle around whilst wearing my sister’s (grown out of) blue tutu. Our parents did not freak out. They even used the cine camera (equiv of todays video-cam) to record him and my sister (wearing a cream coloured tutu) playing on the front lawn.

    OK, so it wasn’t pink, but it was a cute tutu. This was in the 1950’s. Could a three-year-old boy be so carefree about what he wears today?

  7. I think beside the concerns expressed above about the message of needing to assert gender is the other message being screamed from the start – that somehow this child is not beautiful enough on her own and needs “help” as soon as she emerges from the womb!

  8. This product is all about the parents’ anxiety. Some mothers and fathers must be so needy, vulnerable, and gender-anxious (to coin a term) that they cannot abide the possibility that their child may be taken to belong to the “opposite” sex. I think the interesting issue here (and it’s an empirical one) is what does the sale of the product indicate about parents and parenting today?

  9. moira: i can tell you, as the mother of a preschool boy who likes things like tutus, that no, they can’t be so carefree today. three- and four-year-olds say rude things to my son; we’ve even had trouble with a member of staff at his preschool complaining _to my child_ that his clothes are “girl clothes”. (to the preschool’s credit, that woman has been let go, and the rest of the staff go out of their way to be complimentary.) talk about gender-anxiety! (like the term, btw!)

  10. extendedlip I’m concerned but not greatly surprised. At our group’s AGM last night one of the women, who has three daughters and two grand-daughters said she thought girls today are having a far rougher ride from society and even at an early age the genders are far more polarised – and that her grandaugherts tell her the boys at their school have ghastly attitudes to the girls – who do not have feminism’s messages to give them strength. We won’t be post-feminist until we’re post-sexist, but it seems the anti-social sins of the Thatcherism / Reaganomics era are living on unto the next generation.

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