How do you cope with really big disappointments?

Not  that I’m worried at all about today ending with one of the BIG ONES.  But even if it doesn’t, then chances of another one coming along soon are pretty big.  And maybe even worse, we could have nearly a year when catastrophe loams large in the guise of you-know-who as a presidential candidate.

So how do we remain sane and functional?  At least most of the time. 

We might  think of big losses in our personal lives or in a profession we care about, such as not getting a tt job or tenure.  But let’s stick for now with the sort of state or national events, ones where the effects of the loss are not immediate and deeply personal, but they seem like pretty severe blows to something we care about, such as the welfare of  many people around us.  Like the second election of Bush II.

What do you do?  Try not to think about it?  Try turning to something else to regain a senses of control and progress?  Have some good stiff drinks?

I hope I haven’t just covered all the options!  Are there more ideas out there?  Or details for the ones above?  Let us know what you have or will do.

9 thoughts on “How do you cope with really big disappointments?

  1. Don’t worry about it.

    “Can any of you add a single hour to the length of your life by worrying?”

  2. That’s a lovely thought. But (1) you can add to the lenght if the worries point out a genuine problem and you act to solve it; (2) length isn’t everything; (3) sometimes it’s hard or impossible to control worries.

    Other than that, it’s great advice.
    I’m a very practiced worrier, by the way. ;)

  3. Still, the NY Times says Stupak has decided to vote yes. So I suppose we should find out what the agreement he and Pelosi reached looks like.

  4. Along the same lines: “If you have fear of some pain or suffering, you should examine whether there is anything you can do about it. If you can, there is no need to worry about it; if you cannot do anything, then there is also no need to worry.”

    (Like you said, good advice if you’re able to apply it)

  5. I’m on the other side of the border, so I’ve never not voted for Bush. But I remember the feeling when Mike Harris was elected Premier of Ontario for the second time, after making huge cuts in health and education but putting more money in our individual wallets (so the theory goes). It’s the only election I watched on TV from start to finish. When he won, I went outside and saw a sea of blue signs in my neighbourhood (his colour). There was one other orange sign. He was also out on the porch. He a nurse, and me a teacher. Go figure. We hung out together all night drinking wine and lamenting. It’s most important to have good company when you’ve been defeated.

  6. Yes, good company is a must – someone sympathetic with whom to commiserate. A furry companion is also good.

  7. Monkey, I do agree with the furry companion part, but mine are slow to commiserate and hopeless at giving good advice.

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