In case you haven’t heard: A book describing one mother’s version of so-called “Chinese parenting,” and an advance excerpt of it in the Wall Street Journal, have created considerable media reaction, both in the US and the UK. The author, Amy Chua, law professor at Yale, is described in the NY Times as holding the following:
Declare that the way Asian-American parents succeed in raising such successful children is by denying them play dates and sleepovers, and demanding that they bring home straight A’s.
Note that you once told your own hyper-successful Asian-American daughter that she was “garbage.” That you threatened to throw out your other daughter’s dollhouse and refused to let her go to the bathroom one evening until she mastered a difficult piano composition. That you threw the homemade birthday cards they gave you as 7- and 4-year-olds back in their faces, saying you expected more effort.
I know some people who have been brought up in approximately the same style; it is not just Chinese. They were very seriously and deeply scarred. However, as discussions occasionally point out, people can react very differently to such parenting, as indeed did Chua’s children.
Here’s a video with some discussion of it: