From investigator to victim

A very honest, depressing and also fascinating first-person account from a police officer who specialised in sexual offences, and then (through a completely separate chain of events) was raped. He discusses his unwillingness to press charges, the pressure that well-meaning collagues put him under, and the new insights he now has.

Another question I’ve had to ask myself is why, as a police officer, I am not doing everything I can to get my attacker off the streets. But I’m a victim first and a police officer second. I’m not the first victim to decide not to press charges, and I won’t be the last. Being a cop means I know the system, and it has scared me off. I know this case would be likely to end in court and, from that point, I couldn’t maintain my anonymity. I couldn’t cope with the added burden of being a cop as well as a victim.

Thanks, Jender-Parents.

6 thoughts on “From investigator to victim

  1. Wait, I don’t understand this:

    “I couldn’t cope with the added burden of being a cop as well as a victim.”

    A publicly known victim? cause as far as the story goes the sexual offence DID occur. Won’t this Cop have to deal with being the ‘victim’ of this ‘crime’, whether it is known “by the courts” or ‘by the public’? or only by himself?

  2. James, do you think perhaps that this demonstrates that the (social) meaning of “being a victim” might change depending on context? And also that the social meaning is more important for many victims than the actual status of victimhood?

  3. Bakka – “that the social meaning is more important for many victims than the actual status of victimhood?”

    going by the excerpt in the post i don’t know if his ‘victimhood’ had any significance for him.

    it’s all a TANGLE of relation!

  4. Thank you for sharing this story. Really interesting to see a different type of victim. . .

  5. (Ops, I posted this comment at another threat, but it was intended for this post! So much for doing things in a hurry late in the evening!)

    Thank you so much for posting this. I’ve linked the article in comments at my post on sexual harassment and the victim’s perspective. This article illustrates precisely how f****** hard it is to come forward in such cases.

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