A very small story

OR: you never can tell.

I had met John about a year ago, and I remember chatting with him. A nice young man a bit dazed by the birth of his twin girls. Nearly a year later I saw him, and now his wife and the two girls, one dressed in a blue dress and one in green. So after we said how glad we were to meet up again, he said to me, “you did say the love of pink was learned.”

I really don’t go around lecturing people on pink, but I imagine that when I learned he had new twin girls, I said something about how the world of pink was optional. Much to my total surprise and delight, he seemed to remember and even acted on what I said!

5 thoughts on “A very small story

  1. And why would it be a bad thing if the love of pink WEREN’T learned?

    Are we not allowed to be different based on biology? If we can be “born that way” when it comes to sexual preferences — and who would deny we are, outside of the lunatic fundamentalists — why not the love of pink, for God’s sake?

  2. Anon, nothing in the post says we are not allowed to be different based on biology. Opting out of a widespread cultural practice that girls MUST wear pink is compatible with “biologically” different loves. If anything, avoiding the enforcement of it as a required taste may allow a natural enjoyment of it to flourish all the more.

  3. Anon, yes to profbigK. I wouldn’t mind all sorts of tastes to be based on sexual differences, but the evidence for that is really not there now.

    One huge worry is that if the love of pink is inculcated and not natural, how does it get inculcated? And who profits from that?

  4. I agree, it’s not that it would be upsetting either way (nature or nurture), but rather a question of, well, which is it, and what’s the evidence?
    I believe there is some neurobiological evidence that female human beings are better at seeing and distinguishing reds than males are. But also relevant is the fact that pink wasn’t “for girls” in western culture until less than a century ago, according to this recent article in Smithsonian.

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