I’ve been puzzling today about Ann Romney’s speech at the RNC. Particularly, this:
And if you listen carefully, you’ll hear the women sighing a little bit more than the men. It’s how it is, isn’t it?
It’s the moms who always have to work a little harder, to make everything right.
It’s the moms of this nation — single, married, widowed — who really hold this country together. We’re the mothers, we’re the wives, we’re the grandmothers, we’re the big sisters, we’re the little sisters, we’re the daughters.
You know it’s true, don’t you? You’re the ones who always have to do a little more.
You know what it’s like to work a little harder during the day to earn the respect you deserve at work and then come home to help with that book report which just has to be done. You know what those late night phone calls with an elderly parent are like and the long weekend drives just to see how they’re doing. You know the fastest route to the local emergency room and which doctors actually answer the phone when you call at night.
You know what it’s like to sit in that graduation ceremony and wonder how it was that so many long days turned into years that went by so quickly.
You are the best of America. You are the hope of America. There would not be an America without you.
Tonight, we salute you and sing your praises.
I’m not sure if men really understand this, but I don’t think there’s a woman in America who really expects her life to be easy. In our own ways, we all know better!
And that’s fine. We don’t want easy.
It’s great to see an acknowledgement of feminist concerns in this venue–concerns that women are held to a higher standard, and take on certain responsibilities almost by default–but this is really not “fine” and it has nothing to do with wanting things “easy.” Wanting equality does not mean wanting to avoid responsibility, and accepting systematic and structural disadvantage should not be equated with being the “best.” Thoughts?
(Full transcript here.)