Tenure, She Wrote has a really wonderful list of rules for How not to be That Dude – ways for the male academic to be a helpful, gender-ally colleague.
At at the end of the list, I’m particularly fond of:
20. Finally, if you do all of the above, don’t expect a cookie. Your efforts may go unacknowledged or even unrecognized much of the time. Keep at it anyway, because you’re not out to get special recognition. You’re doing it because it’s the decent thing to do.
(Thanks for the tip, H!)