Heidi Lockwood on Roiphe

Over at NewAPPS. Read it all.

But I will show you why your “The Philosopher and The Student” piece in Slate was despicable, ignorant and mean-spirited. I will show you how a power differential can twist reality. I will show you how your refusal to see is the product of creating a narrative in which you yourself are victimized.

You see, Katie Roiphe: this much I know.

I know that one of my daughter’s friends drew a picture — when she was 17 — of her father, with hearts around it. A picture of her father and herself, in bed. He “loved” her. But the hearts didn’t mean that she loved him. The hearts were there because she was afraid of the consequences of making him angry. The hearts were there because what he thought of her mattered to her. The hearts were there because what he thought of her depended on whether she professed her love for him. The hearts were there because there was a power differential.