A call for consent workshops

The meaning of sexual consent is often misunderstood in disturbing ways by young people. There’s the idea that if you wear sexy clothing you’re asking for it; that silence during a sex act equals consent; and that women are always falsely accusing men of sexual assault and rape. Surveys have shown that one in two boys and one in three girls think it is OK to sometimes hit a woman or force her to have sex. All of which suggests a new approach is necessary. We need to teach young women and men about affirmative, enthusiastic and informed consent.

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Consent workshops aren’t about preaching or judging. I attended a training session earlier this year that explained how they would work, and we discussed the sorts of things in everyday life we typically ask consent for. This ranged from seeing if a chair is free, to going to the toilet during a class. It revealed that we ultimately ask for people’s consent all the time, so in sex it should be no different. We also discussed how to “check in” with your partner, to see if they consent at different stages of an encounter, and the ways in which people in ongoing relationships can negotiate an understanding of consent. When feeding back to the session, the phrase that kept being repeated was “Just ask”.

The idea of affirmative and enthusiastic consent encourages people to regard sex as a positive, willing action. It’s about teaching women and men not to be ashamed of sex, and to proceed consciously and confidently. An understanding of consent engenders respect for everyone: from those who choose to refrain from sex to those who are in relationships, and those who engage in sex in a wide variety of situations. Consent is about ensuring that people are completely comfortable in their sexual decisions, whatever those might be.

Colleges at Cambridge have taken a big step by introducing consent talks and workshops – but I’d like to see these made compulsory in all universities across the UK. The workshops bring home the difficult truth that we are all capable of violating someone else’s consent, while creating a safe space to discuss the meaning of consenting positively and enthusiastically. They are empowering, and absolutely necessary.

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4 thoughts on “A call for consent workshops

  1. Reblogged this on Copyright © Catherine Hopes 2014 and commented:
    I think that we not only need consent workshops but more importantly to be taught consent at school. Consent is not only of primordial importance with regard to reducing rape but also with regard to young sexual assault and rape survivors understanding that they have been assaulted. As a sexual assault survivor myself of multiple assaults with my first sexual experience and assault being at seventeen I did not realise that I had been assaulted until a few months ago as I had never been taught about the exact definitions of sexual assault and rape and that silence and drunkenness does not mean consent.

  2. Informed consent is also a huge issue in healthcare, whose importance is fortunately starting to become more recognized. I wonder if there might be opportunities for synergies or collaboration between the informed consent movements in healthcare (patients’ rights/human rights) and feminism (women’s rights/human rights). In both cases informed consent is what draws the line between someone legally touching our bodies and assault/rape. In both cases skimping on informed consent violates a person’s right to autonomous decision-making about their own bodies.

    (A brief blog post on informed consent in healthcare: http://siipc.org/siipc-blog/the-letter-or-the-spirit)

  3. I hate to dig-up such an old topic but I was hoping to get some help from my fellow FPs about academic work published about affirmative consent (either at the university level or as law)? I was hoping to include a reading to two in an upcoming course. Thanks.

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