Autism is much more frequentlly diagnosed in males than in females. An article in the British Psychological Psychological Association’s journal suggests the underlying difference lies in a crucial distingushing feature. To invoke the cliches of the syndrome: autistic males are loners who lack intuitive understanding of the neuro-typicals’ actions and reactions. Autistic women, on the other hand, have the same. lack of intuitive understanding, but they have a much stronger desire for social relations.
On this account, autistic women lack the skills to fulfill a fundamental desire they have. They may learn to compensate for their intuitive lack. However, I would suppose that getting help is very difficult for them. Therapists won’t be prepared to see the problems they have.